Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Octavian Avery, 4 Months

This handsome little guy turned 4 months yesterday...

15 pounds 5 ounces (March 3rd)

Schedule:  we don't really have a set schedule.  My day revolves around his feeding and sleeping.  At this point, I still feel like it's early and unnecessary to force any sort of rigid timeline on him. Plus, I'm learning that things really do change weekly when it comes to babies.  Up until this month he was sleeping until 10am almost every morning.  This month, every day is different- some days it's 7am and then other rare days he'll last until 9:30am.  To be honest, I have no idea what i'm doing- my priority each day is making sure he gets enough to eat and sleeps enough.  The one consistent part of our day, is I generally feed him every two hours.  

I am still only getting up once per night, sometimes two, to nurse.  He never really wakes up demanding food, but if he wakes up and doesn't fall back to sleep quickly, I'll usually just feed him.  His bed time varies anywhere from 7:30-9pm and he'll wake up between 7-9:30am.  Many times his early wake ups are due to gas or pooping and by that point he just won't go back to sleep.  Unfortunately, he is still sleeping in his swing at night.  I tried transitioning him to the co-sleeper, but he was losing too much sleep and clearly wasn't ready.  Also, I refuse to cry-it-out at all until he is at least 6-7 months.  Getting him out of his swing will probably require some tears.  I have been turning down the speed as low as it will go, and I've been putting him down awake so that he does fall asleep independently.  I really struggled with the fact that he was sleeping in a swing for a few weeks and felt like I was a terrible mother because of it.  However, if he is happy and comfortable (and it helps his reflux!), then i'll let it be for now.  Since day one he has refused sleeping in a bassinet or crib and always needed some kind of rocking or swinging.  For baby #2, however, I may keep swing time to naps only.  Speaking of naps, he loves them!  Unfortunately, they last for only 45 minutes, four times a day.  His short, but frequent, naps make going anywhere a challenge.  He naps in the rock n play (and sometimes crib).  I've tried just about everything to help his fall back asleep when napping, but nothing has worked so far.  

Although he is still a great eater, little distractions (noises in the kitchen, TV, Daddy talking, etc.) prevent him from eating as much as he used to.  He eats 7-9 times per day and I will have to guess 3-4 ounces each feed (with exception for late night and morning feeds where he probably eats more because my breasts are fuller).  Since he hates when i'm not borderline engorged (he's a lazy eater), it makes late afternoon and night times feeds especially difficult.  I've started pumping to help increase supply (and hopefully fullness), but I've noticed little change.  I can only hope that he adjusts to my changing fullness since he also refuses the bottle.  Knowing that he has probably been eating less stresses me out- I've been crazy obsessed about making sure he eats enough since day one (i'll save that topic for a separate post).  For the most part, however, he still seems satisfied and is producing plenty of wet/poopy diapers.  

New Skills:
It seems like he is discovering something new every day!  This month, his major discovery were his feet!  Since then, they are always in his hands. An added bonus of feet finding is it's helped him when he is really gassy (all the time).  He is also much more entertained when I lay him on his back to play.  He also rolled from belly to back on Daddy's birthday.  He has also started to giggle!  It has only happened a few times- mostly when Daddy is being silly, or when I tickle his belly!  He also discovered that someone (usually Mommy or Daddy) is carrying him around and that he doesn't just float around magically.  He still loves his hands and is talking up a storm.  Each morning I wake up to him babbling to himself- it's the cutest thing.  I always put him in bed with us and just listen to him chat to the fan and his hands (and secretly hope he'll fall asleep). Overall, this month was full of fun discoveries for my little man.  

This boy loves to be naked.  If he is ever sad, all I need to do is take off his diaper and he is a happy boy.  It's not surprising that bath time is his favorite part of his day!  He also loves his bouncer, when Mommy sings, tickles, Mr. Seahorse and just about anything else that he can get in his mouth.  He is also so in love with his Dad.  Every time Daddy walks in the room he lights up and gives us a big gummy smile.  

He hates sitting still- I should I say, when I sit still.  Other than that, I can't think of anything he hates.  Oh wait, he hates bottles.

//This month Octavian also got to see lots of family!  Grandpa Jeff, Auntie Jen and his Uncle Jordan all came to visit him from southern CA.  We also made lots of visits to Grandma Lorna's house.  
//He still hasn't figured out that he smiles for the camera.  Whenever I pull out my phone or camera he instantly puts his frown face on.  I have to be pretty sneaky to get a smile.
//He is starting to teeth.  I'm sure i'll have lots to say about this next month.
//Gripe water is still our best friend.
//He still spits up like crazy, but he's getting so heavy that I can't hold him for an hour after he eats anymore (I like to keep him upright to help his little belly digest his food).

I love my little man with every fiber of my body.  There really is no other love quite like the love for your child.  He brings me so much joy each and every day.  While I often wish time would slow down, I am so excited to watch him grow into his own little person.  I can already tell that Daddy and I are going to have our hands full.
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cynthia said...

So many great facial expressions! :)
It's funny how you want to see them learn new things, but STOP GROWING ALREADY! geez... haha
My son doesn't laugh easily or frequently but when he does it's AWESOME. He smiles a ton, though, so I can't complain. :)

cynthia said...

Oh and P.S. The sleeping thing... I'd say just do what works! My son is still in our room at 9 months. Even though I KNOW he needs to get into his crib, I am back at work and just don't have the willpower to force it (yet).